With the cost of mental health rocketing, 24% rise in missed days at work (stress, depression, anxiety), extremely sad stats regarding adolescent issues often complex and at its worse leading to suicide, the effect of which is catastrophic for all.
There is no such thing as stress!
So what is going on?
Stress is a word often used for describing how we in our lives feel. ‘Stress’ is an umbrella term that emcompasses internal and external elements; mind, mood, body, behaviour and external pressures. The label ‘stress’ can be used as a scapegoat giving us permission to ●avoid things ●blame something/someone ●do things that cause us/another harm ●or do nothing to improve our wellbeing. One of my favorites scapegoats is “I need to eat chocolate” which of course is never true despite being a yummy avoidance or passifying tactic! One day I will develop this to “I’d like to have a jog”; my growth is ongoing!
Consistent ‘stress’ is a multi-stepped internal process that is usually created by how we think eg: excessive worry or worst case scenarios. This creates excessive emotions particularly anxiety and or anger, which in turn releases adrenalin/cortisol. All emotions are natural, healthy and can be excruciating but which, if we allow time, will pass. Feeling consistently anxious is hiddeous and this pattern can include periods of mild-severe depression.
If we want to develop our wellbeing its useful to identify the purpose of our habitual thinking styles and the following extreme emotions. This knowledge supports our ability to develop habits that balance our mind and mood. One key element in this process is learning how to seperate external pressure from how we feel internally.
An experiement in this style could include dropping the word ‘stress’!
Development is required if we have conditional thinking that insists we must be distressed eg: ●I cannot relax until ●I wont feel ok unless ●I cant be comfortable because ●I wont enjoy any of today unless ●I would be happy if only ●Im not able to be confident ●Im a born worrier and cannot change ●My mood is dependent on others so its out of my control.
Development is possible for all of us, we are amazing, creative beings!
For those who wish to proactively manage and develop their psychological & emotional health, we provide effective, neurological and psychological coaching/education. Prevention is more practical than leaving wellbeing issues to reach an acute stage which often causes personal and economic misery and chaos.